Dear Readers,
Below is a copy of an email I sent to Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, author of Gaslighting and some other books on toxic relationships. I want you all to also keep an eye on a prior post called “Who Was Esoteric Quality” in which I break down all the manipulations this dude subjected me to. There will indeed be a part 2. I’m also going to go into depth and share with you all some mental swordsmanship tactics so you all who are both men and women, other beings included, will be fully equipped to deal with the gaslighters in your lives. I want to set things up so that you all don’t suffer what I have suffered. But first, some notes.
Roxie Miller Jacobs may be a new person altogether. It appears she might have wedded a new man. Zachary Allen Smith is the man who popped up on my radar while doing a preliminary investigation in order to figure out what on earth happened to sweet Vivian Rae Jacobs, but it also may be that she is Vivian Rae Smith. Please be advised, this information is not for Clay to know at this present time, but if he finds out, I hope that whoever tells him this will explain that this is his wakeup call. IF he doesn’t begin making changes and soon to all gaslighting behaviors, not only will I not allow him around me extensively, let alone do certain things with Malcolm, but he may lose all rights to Malcolm because this is what is in Malcolm’s best interest, not Clayton’s. It has never been solely about Clay’s best interests. It now has to be about Malcolm.
Also, one more note. I will need to begin the process of gettin wraparound services due to the extensive gaslighting that had been done to me, coupled with domestic assault or violence. Unfortunately, Jason Black is also responsible for the gaslighting behavior Clayton had done on me. Mr. Black’s the Business channel must swiftly be reported for hate speech, and if possible, inciting violence and abuse against women especially. See the note I wrote Dr. Sarkis below. I want to hear you all’s thoughts and opinions. Reaching out is never easy.
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Hi, Dr. Sarkis,
My name as stated here in this form is Beth Taurasi. I recently obtained your book about gaslighting. Yeah yeah I’ve read the beginning portion where you said that post you put up about gaslighting went viral. For me, the book went viral. I recently became involved with what appeared to me as a dashing young prince. Okay, not a prince, but he appeared that way. Unfortunately, we began a sexual relationship not knowing that for me, he was gaslighting me to the max. I’ve literally been subjected to every single gaslighter pattern of manipulation in Chapter 1 of your book, and suddenly as I progressed through that chapter, flash bulbs went off in my brain. I had heard so many of the sentences that were clear associated manipulator patterns. Funny I was told I was manipulative, but upon reading your book, I was even more reassured that I was never the problem. Sadly, I have to deal with the gaslighter, but for me, a silver lining appeared on April 15, 2023. My beautiful son Malcolm Clayton Jacobs was born, and it seemed that his father, Clayton A. Jacobs, he was gaslighting me before but he claims he wanted to restart things. However, I can say for certain I’ve resolved not to get intimate with him when I progressed through your book’s couple of chapters. I was pretty amazed and at the same time felt pretty sad. MY son Malcolm is at risk of becoming a gaslighter or being gaslighted himself. It’s only a matter of when unless I can wrench him out of Clayton’s purview, however the courts in the state of Colorado have it set up so we have to share custody. I had been doing some fact finding work to answer yet another question I had rumbling in my head. The question was this: if Clayton says he’s barred from seeing his daughter, for one is that true? If true, then could it be that Clayton gaslighted the girl’s mother? I found Clayton’s ex wife, Roxelle R. Miller, while doing a little instant checkmate search and discovered that Roxie, as she was called, married a guy called Zachary Allen Smith, which then did not help matters in solving the mystery of Malcolm’s older sister. Clayton still holds out hope he will see his daughter, a girl of age 8 named Vivian Rae. The question is is she Jacobs or Smith? If she’s Jacobs, Clay can safely say he could ask to visit her. However, he stated many times to me before the gaslighting I experienced that Vivian’s honored mother was crazy. Or was she? Your book helped me shed light on a possible manipulative ploy on Clayton’s part to possibly turn the whole world against Roxie. Upon searching for her, I began to wonder if because Roxie didn’t want to be associated with the Jacobs family, which from my research and from Clayton’s truthful stories, was dotted all the way over in the male line with violence and criminal behavior. Starting as far back as a man named Ben, who died before the term gaslighting even was a thing, the elder Jacobs males seem to have abused wives or children or both. Jim Jacobs, Ben’s son, obviously learned to do it from old Pops, given your experience in psych, I can only conclude this. Because Jim was abused, I also concluded that Danny Jacobs, Clayton’s direct biological father, also got abused. Because of that, Danny later found himself attacking the woman who bore him three children, including a twelve-year-old blind boy called Clayton, twelve at the age of a big court case which Danny used classic manipulative behaviors to get out of being found guilty of burglary and yes, sexual assault or rape among other things. Sadly, I’m very sure Clayton witnessed this and in doing so, may attempt the same on his precious son Malcolm. HE has done two or more assaults before, during and after my pregnancy with Malcolm. Clayton had been most notably engaging in what your book calls “triangulation and splitting.” Both behaviors seem to go hand in hand, so when I talk about those, I never talk about those by themselves. The splitting behaviors in particular cost me $3500 worth of equipment, supports I would need to get through a high risk pregnancy with Malcolm, and later my phone number I had up to recently. Malcolm stands a good chance of being abused but without an actual evaluation, I don’t have a definite percentage number. I’ve been dealing with the courts and they are seemingly dragging this case out too much. Your book is giving me language I could not otherwise speak in order to deal with Clayton and his behaviors. I will say that when we break free, my plan is to allow Malcolm to keep Clayton’s last name, however, because I do not feel that adopting Malcolm to a man I marry is at all productive. My mission here on Earth seemse to be to hit the reset button on the male line of the Jacobs clan. Clayton may be a goner at this point, however my hope is that the courts act soon and get Clayton evaluated and set up with domestic violence treatment as soon as possible. My question and concern for Colorado would be that the state might not be able to provide effective treatment for Clayton because of how ingrained these behaviors seem to have become. I wish Clay had opened his eyes before, but your book is a great source of strength and provides what I call “mental swordsmanship” tactics. I am learning how Clayton enacts bad behaviors, I am also learning through your book how when he attacks, how to counterattack. It’s this kind of knowledge that more women should be privy to. Because of Clayton’s manipulations, now I’m deep in a dependency and neglect case involving my sweet son. Through it all, Malcolm smiles and he makes all the sounds and expressions that babies make as they grow, and I often wonder how on Earth I’m going to keep a bond with him. One big mistake by some professionals however was when I brought this up, they questioned my mental fitness to parent and stability as well. I was furious, and my attorney said they wanted my parenting restricted and Clayton to get priority. My brain fired off all kinds of “no” signals. I was so furious that any professional would even fall for that garbage. I said, and this is accurate, that Clayton might be plottingg to take Malcolm and pack them up and move and bar me from seeing him. A friend of mine suggests Clayton is wanting to take both his children, and in doing so, force myself and Roxie to pay child support. However, I do want to see Clayton not repeat these behaviors with any more women and get them pregnant either. I want to support Clayton in some small way, however it’s clear in your book that you want us to disengage from a gaslighter. I want to say that it’s not easy because we’re coparenting. But Our Family Wizard is a very big tool I’m using by order of the courts. There are some accessibility barriers, anda tone reader is included that kind of helps with that anger portion. However, I can’t help but ask myself how AI tech could possibly detect gaslighting. Your book mentions all manner of things, maybe the insights in your book should probably go toward making AI detect a possible gaslighting pattern in a coparent’s writing. This would be very big in terms of helping victims break free in a custody dispute. I dispute Clay’s ability to parent because he got mad at me for attaching a photo of Malcolm as he was presented, and I provided a date and time and a simple “This is how Malcolm was presented to me during this exchange.” Clayton went ballistic and berated me for posting Malcolm’s photo claiming I disrespected his likeness. HE said the OFW platform could be hacked. All I could say was the photo needed to show a documentation, that was it. Clay could not come up with alternatives for documentation when asked. So the topic went kaputz. Later on, Clay berated me for not providing him with formula, and so I am now considering removing him from my WIC account, also because he had attacked me over his possession of that card. He said I’d never get it back, and when I told him it was for women and babies, he spouted antifemale rhetoric of the sort that almost threw me off guard. In attempts to protect myself and Malcolm, Clayton crossed the line by not only assaulting me, but removing Malcolm from a good nap. I reported the incident to my CPS workers, called the police, two therapists reported this as well. I’m grateful for mandated reporters, and now there will probably be more issues because Clay didn’t want Malcolm to receive his routine shots, and he wrote a nasty post about me on X, formerly Twitter. The story just gets more interesting.
Your book showed me that none of this was acceptable, so I have recently begun writing parodies of Broadway songs using some of Clayton’s language in his tweet/x post. I’m resistant and want to stay that way.
Please let me know the best thing to do to get out of this situation. Is it ever recommended that a child’s last name be changed if the last name is that of the gaslighter? I want to be certain I’m doing the right thing by Malcolm.
Sincerely,
Beth Taurasi
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This e-mail was sent from a contact form on Stephanie Sarkis PhD’s web site (https://stephaniesastg.wpengine.com)
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